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Post by balc2 on Mar 26, 2024 6:41:14 GMT
Good morning all 👋 lesley Why the crying faces? Has your mum got worse?
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Post by jellibeans on Mar 26, 2024 7:12:11 GMT
Morning everybody. Oh lesley .....my thoughts and love are with you during this most difficult of times.xxx
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Post by seaburn on Mar 26, 2024 16:30:49 GMT
afternoon everyone.
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Post by SueA on Mar 26, 2024 19:00:08 GMT
Evening all. 😊 Hope you are OK lesley.xx
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Post by grindle on Mar 27, 2024 2:44:21 GMT
Hope everything is ok lesley x Morning all
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Post by balc2 on Mar 27, 2024 6:35:42 GMT
Good morning all 👋
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Post by jellibeans on Mar 27, 2024 7:44:21 GMT
Good morning everyone, likewise I really hope all is ok with you too lesley.
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Post by seaburn on Mar 27, 2024 15:34:16 GMT
good afternoon all. Hope you are ok Lesley
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Post by lesley on Mar 27, 2024 18:36:22 GMT
Evening everyone i'm sort of OK but i'm finding it really hard re mum as she doesnt wont to give in 4 days NO fluids or food, she doesn't really know were there although i've sat for hours by her bedside, i wouldn't keep my cat like that i think life is so crawl. Thank you all for your thoughts and kindness. xx
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Post by SueA on Mar 27, 2024 19:49:01 GMT
Evening all. That's so sad lesley, it must be awful for you to see.
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Post by jellibeans on Mar 27, 2024 20:24:11 GMT
lesley I'm so sorry you're having to go through this as it's so very distressing to witness. I sadly went through the same thing a few years ago with my lovely Dad. My siblings and I sat for nights and days holding his hand and playing the music that he and our Mum use to love so much from the late 30s - 40's....it was their ' courting music' We were all upset by our Dad not eating or drinking during his final days as well , but we felt a little better when it was explained to us that his body had no need for fluid or nourishment anymore and it was a completely natural thing. We just use to moisten his lips every so often to stop his mouth from getting too dry. Rest assured your Mum's body knows what's best and that despite what it may look like to you she will be at ease and at peace. Just hold her hand and talk to her...you are by her side and even if she is, as my Dad was, not conscious she WILL know your are there by her side. I have only be present and witnessed two passing... my parents. I still think they both had a beautifully calm and peaceful end to their well lived lives. Death use to scare me...but not anymore. A peaceful passing is the ultimate reward in life. xx
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Post by geumgrower on Mar 27, 2024 20:57:37 GMT
Like others I have been through this. My mother just slowly drifted away. No pain, no trauma, just slept. Better than the pain and agony which my Father went through with cancer. The worst part for me was feeling guilty that I could do nothing other than sit and wait. I wish there was something one could say that might help.
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Post by balc2 on Mar 27, 2024 21:15:17 GMT
I had a similar experience with my mum, though in her case it wasn't dementia but an accident with the bollard on the pavement very close to the house. For months she wasn't eating properly afterwards & when she finally had to go into hospital they put a sign up behind her bed that said "NOTHING BY MOUTH". She went in in October & came out - in a box - in January! 😥 I did spend a few hours by her bedside in the week before her death but she was asleep the whole time. 😥 It's very hard when you sit with someone, especially when they are so close like a mother or father. We can only uphold them in our prayers. Just this last Monday a preacher we watch on YouTube said it was one of the most difficult moments one has to live through. One can only trust in the Lord Jesus Christ that the person we love so much will be taken to His side & that we will be with them ourselves someday.
If I say much more this post may be flagged for being discriminating of other religions but I firmly believe in life after death & spending eternity with Jesus Christ.
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Post by jellibeans on Mar 27, 2024 21:41:15 GMT
I lost my Dad during the lockdowm...in the end we broke the rules and my siblings and I all stayed with him until the end ( in his own home) I have no qualms at all, especially on learning about the parties and get togethers going on at no.10!! The saddest part was not being able to invite anyone to his funeral....only 12 of us could attend...so sad as at 94 he had a lot of family and friends.
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Post by grindle on Mar 28, 2024 4:50:25 GMT
It must be so hard for you lesley having not had to go through this I can't imagine how it must feel, thinking of you x
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