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Post by Cherry on Nov 30, 2021 13:09:32 GMT
I know what to do at the back, but the front is a real old person’s garden and is covered in gravel with two driveways in cemented down slabs and two paths for good measure. This is looking like seriously heavy work to get rid of the slabs.
I have already had to get rid of some of the gravel to give me somewhere to plant some daffodils. These are in next to a fence at the end of the cul-de-sac, which is my nosy neighbour’s back fence. (It is my front side.). He has made it clear that no plants are to touch his fence and actually asked me to leave at least a foot so he can reach it to paint it. Why didn’t he put his fence inside his own property in that case? This is my first time in a suburban setting. Such a shame. It would look lovely coming down this cul-de-sac if there was a lovely white rose on wires next to the fence. Anyway, my Rowan and Crab Apple will go in, and probably a Pineapple Broom, all well back from the fence, but, hiding it. Every time I dig in the front, putting the daffs in, testing the depth of gravel, having a plant delivered by the nursery, etc., he pops out to make sure that I am not digging near his fence. I will probably get used to it. The other neighbours are welcoming nice people.
There is not a real question in here. I know I will have to spend some money and get someone with a digger to get rid of this stuff, but I wanted to moan about the fence. The fence extends down the side to my back garden being the back of two more neighbours. No problems with them, but I have never met them.
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Post by steve on Nov 30, 2021 16:54:11 GMT
Your neighbour has no right to come on your property to paint his fence Cherry, he either has to ask your permission to come over, or paint his side, lift the fence out turn it round and paint the other side
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Post by daitheplant on Nov 30, 2021 19:25:30 GMT
I totally agree with Steve, Cherry. Actually, the fence face on your side has little to do with your neighbour, if he wants to treat your side he MUST get your permission to do so. Also, if I remember rightly, if you don`t like the colour he is using then you can refuse permission.
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Post by grindle on Dec 1, 2021 4:49:40 GMT
I agree with both comments here Cherry your property and he has no right to tell you what you can and can't do your side
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Post by SueA on Dec 1, 2021 9:07:40 GMT
He sounds lovely Cherry! You could just tell him you'll paint your side of the fence yourself as it's on your property, I've always just painted our side & tried to be careful not to let the paint drip through to the other side. I'd check the deeds & info. pack for your house as well to see exactly where your boundaries are, I remember when we were selling our last house I had to fill in forms about who owned the fences etc. I'd do what Steve & Dai suggest & tell him he can't come into your garden & can take the panels out & turn them around to paint the other side. If the space he wants you to leave is on your property then you can plant what you want there without his permission. With the gravel in the front garden you could do what I did here, half was a block paved driveway which I had to leave for parking & the other half was entirely covered with gravel. I raked all the gravel into a circle & placed a ring of bricks around it & then planted roses, bulbs, perennials etc. through the weed proof membrane around the edges & also put small box balls in the gravel circle so that you don't really notice the gravel at all. The conifer in the middle of this pic. is in a pot but I think it might have rooted into the ground!
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Post by Cherry on Dec 2, 2021 14:53:03 GMT
I suggested that he could lift the panels out between the concrete posts, but he has prickly wire along the top to stop birds from sitting there. He really is that bad. They did not like the idea of lifting out the panels. I don’t like to cause any ill feeling right at the start, but I will be planting some trees as I said before, to hide the ugly fence in this old fashioned red cedar colour.
My next door neighbour came in this morning. She is lovely, but will be leaving in April because she does not fit in with the neighbours. Such a pity, because she is the only normal person here. She gardens for wildlife and has a normal garden with no lawn. It has not been let go. She does not keep a manicured gravel garden which is what the old people here have, every one of them. She spoke her mind to the nosy neighbour some time ago, so they don’t speak much past a greeting. The person I bought the house from already said he was not very keen on her.
Sue you appear to be moving the gravel over and just ‘going for it’. I will get rid of some of the concreted paving and give some of the gravel to Geoffrey for the parking place at White House Farm. Your photos have really, really helped me.
Thank you all for your help and comments.
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Post by Eli on Dec 2, 2021 15:36:36 GMT
Cherry you could put your own fence up to hide his, and as long as it's on your side pf the boundary there's nothing he can do about it. It is not your problem if he can't paint his fence, he should have thought about that before erecting it.
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Post by grindle on Dec 3, 2021 4:51:16 GMT
I cannot believe that someone would go as far as putting wire on top of the fence to stop birds sitting on it, that is so over the top
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Post by SueA on Dec 3, 2021 8:30:03 GMT
It is a shame that your neighbour who seems 'normal' will be leaving Cherry, sadly a lot of people nowadays just want a completely neat & maintenance free garden. I can tell I would not be welcome in your new neighbourhood & I think there are a few people around here who don't approve of my 'loose' approach to the garden especially when my 'weeds' - wildflowers pop over the fence! I forgot to mention that when I raked the gravel from the edges of the garden I put a layer of chipped bark over the weed proof membrane after I'd planted through it so that you couldn't see it, can't see it now because of all the plants anyway!
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Post by Cherry on Dec 3, 2021 16:05:42 GMT
Oh that’s good SueA. Geoffrey has huge piles of chippings from dreaded Leylandii which were sawed down. They are getting weathered and old enough to use in this situation. It is a great shame about the wire along the top of the fence, because I am planting for birds and wildlife. I will be getting on with it soon. Last weekend when I went to White House Farm, we found the day was too short for getting too ‘stuck in’ with gardening projects, so we just sampled some good wine instead and had my retro spinach lasagne for dinner. Thanks everyone.
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Post by SueA on Dec 4, 2021 8:43:26 GMT
That sounds like a lovely alternative to gardening Cherry! Good luck with your new projects.
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Post by Cherry on Feb 23, 2022 15:31:04 GMT
Well, I now have the Cytisus battendeiri (pineapple broom) and the Buddleia which you sent me Sue, so I can get on with it. I wish I could send pics. I have a small problem. My heart is playing up and I need another more serious pacemaker with 3 leads to go into the back of my heart. I am having a gardener, who went to school with my son, to put my ideas into the garden. Once it is started I will manage. He has had covid, so will be here with the figures later this week. His degree was draughtsman, but the gardening pays better. Interesting isn’t it?
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Post by daitheplant on Feb 23, 2022 20:33:23 GMT
Cherry, just one TINY bit of advise. Your health is more important than your garden, so take things easy.
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Post by grindle on Feb 24, 2022 4:38:01 GMT
It's good that you have someone to do the work for you Cherry but like Dai says you have to look after your health we're not getting any younger I hope you get your pacemaker sorted out soon xx
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Post by SueA on Feb 24, 2022 8:42:15 GMT
It's good that you'll be getting help with the heavy work of the garden Cherry & then you can sit back & enjoy the view! I hope you can get your new pacemaker fitted soon & then that will be off your mind, don't risk anything too strenuous until you're ticking over at the right pace again.
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