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Post by floydie on Jul 9, 2011 16:56:29 GMT
OHs just dropped it on me that he wants to move again in a few years, hes decided he doesn't like the area enough to warrant staying here long term . I was under the impression this was going to be the house the children would grow up in and we would look at moving when they were older . Now I'm at a loss what do i do carry on as i was with the garden or just finish what Ive started and enjoy what Ive done. The latter is probably the option I'll take but i was looking forward to the end result I had in my head .
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Post by Louise on Jul 9, 2011 17:06:22 GMT
If he's serious, and make sure he is, then i wouldn't do a lot more to it, personally. Enjoy what you've got and done but there's not much point spending loads of time, energy and money on an area that you'll not be in in 2 years time !
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Post by floydie on Jul 9, 2011 17:20:29 GMT
That's my thinking too Louise, Looks like annuals here on in . He says 6 years now as opposed to the couple of years he said before so we shall see. His mind is set I think as he now wants a 4 bed in a nicer area. We've been here 10 months and he already wants to move .
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Post by Tel on Jul 9, 2011 17:56:01 GMT
You are both young enough, if he wants to move because he does not like the area and he wants somewhere nicer for him and his family, i do not blame him.
Brenda and myself will be looking for another house in a nicer area, this estate has gone downhill in recent years. Even if it means giving up the allotments, it will be worth it to live somewhere nicer at our time of life.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2011 18:03:08 GMT
oh dear, sorry to hear that floydie, try and just tickle along with it then, even though 6 years is still a long time away. there are lots of lovely plants that can be put in to cheer up and then composted at the end, as im sure you know well. i can appreciate if youve only been there ten months it will be a shock, but ive been in my bit for a year [not by choice], and its a year too long, and i am searching to move all the time. my neighbourhood is truly awful, and i have virtually zero garden, but have filled it to bursting with pots, and have started gardening vertically to block out my neighbours. its sad to hear, but when someones not happy with where they live, it really affects daily life. i hope you may start to feel a little better soon
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Post by wildlifefriendly on Jul 9, 2011 18:34:43 GMT
Is it your house floydie or are you renting?
I used to buy and sell every few years. If you have a tidy, colourful garden with somewhere to sit it will help to sell your house.
I never spent a fortune on any of my gardens but I did make sure they were as presentable as the house.
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Post by Cherry on Jul 9, 2011 18:37:44 GMT
Keep going, but don't knock yourself out, and before you move, take a piece of everything that you can. I moved here in December and brought loads of plants potted up, but still forgot some which were dormant for winter. Your garden will help to sell the house. At your age, it is rarely a 'forever' thing.
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Post by Geranium on Jul 9, 2011 19:13:36 GMT
I agree - if it really is going to be as long as six years, you could do quite a lot in that time - I don't think you're the sort of person who could sit back and let your efforts go to pot. (Sorry - no pun intended!)
Just don't plant long-term things like trees and shrubs. Stick to flowering plants.
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Post by Rosie on Jul 9, 2011 20:30:30 GMT
We stayed in our last house only about 18 months Floydie , it just didn't work for Graham , but you will settle, we have here and i wouldn't move again. I could not live in a town or a city again, do fancy a move to the country Tel?
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Post by floydie on Jul 9, 2011 21:26:37 GMT
We were in our old house for 7 years so it seams a long way off, I did Zero really in our old house as i knew we would be moving at some point when we saved up enough (2 bed tiny house huge garden). I gardened in pots mainly spaced along the path that ran up the lawn, and had a few plants in the front just enough to make it look nice). We moved from a lovely quiet area no bother at all really in all the time we lived there, here I'm constantly stressed with next door and have a gang of young lads who have started hanging about outside the house until 3am or later. Plus we had young lads setting fire to the empty houses on a daily basis until they knocked them down. Its not bad were we are really but we have undesirables a few streets away that have made the area go down hill. OH chose the house so its his fault . I blame his mate for putting ideas in his head as hes house hunting and OH has been with him today to look at a few.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2011 22:23:22 GMT
i completely sympathise floydie, you could be describing my street, unfortunately we have a pub on the corner too and their favourite thing thurs/fri/sat nights is loud thumping 'music' and we have double glazing, but you wouldnt think so. next door neighbours to us on both sides are truly 'neighbours from hell' where abouts in south yorkshire are you? unfortunately i was born there, but thankfully left when i was 6 and wouldnt go back for all of my favourite lapsang souchong tea in china!
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Post by floydie on Jul 9, 2011 22:27:14 GMT
I'm from Mexborough out of Doncaster Ive lived here all my life, was it really that bad were you were? (in south yorks i mean). We had a pub round the corner from the old house but it was a nice pub . Its not a bad little town here really just a few areas have undesirables about .
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2011 22:42:50 GMT
oh i know there. well my parents know it very well. my whole family on my dads side still live in and around doncaster, my mothers family are further scattered, but alot of my cousins still live around doncaster. my grandads family are from pontefract and bentley, my mums are from hexthorpe. but most of my [large] dads side now live in doncaster and maximum a couple of miles out such as wheatley, armthorpe, intake, askern etc. yes when i was little, it was pretty bad even then, and now you cant even get down those streets as they have been taken over by the 'locals' haha x not that i would want to tho! i'm hoping to move us into a nice end of edinburgh once my course is in full swing, but i might wait till i qualify and move back to france
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Post by sweetpea on Jul 9, 2011 22:43:12 GMT
A dilemma indeed Floydie. Must admit I was the main instigator of our last two moves. my OH would moan moan moan but do anything about it? Oh no! There was always some old excuse for NOT moving. In the end it was retirement that helped plus the neighbours from hell (They get around don't they?) this will be the final resting place though unless the lottery god smiles on me, even then I would be reluctant to move again. I do hope the future works out for you. What about work prospects as that can and does have a bearing on where you live unless like me you are retired. i think whatever you both do it should really be a joint decision that you give a lot of thought to. Just my ten cents worth
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Post by floydie on Jul 9, 2011 22:52:39 GMT
OH is starting an electrician's course hes just waiting for the work placement, once he qualifies he should be able to work any were. We both have family very close by so don't think we would move out of the town just to a different part of it with bigger houses. Its a long way off anyway it just came as a bit of a shock that he wants to move already and also made me think more about the plans for the house and garden. I see little point now in spending copious amounts a few small improvements is on the cards now.
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